Most of the experts and all of the wives tell us that generally men are not nearly as communicative as women are. They don't express what they're feeling, and that tends to shut out their friends and loved ones. These people need to know what we're feeling so they can share our good times and help us through the bad. Now, I know their intentions are good, and it would be very nice to have that kind of relationship, but it might be impossible. I don't express my feelings because I don't know what I'm feeling. I don't even know what I'm thinking, and I very rarely know what I'm doing. I often say things just to see how they sound. And there's nothing worse than being forced into defending a position you don't even hold. So the best solution for us is to keep our mouths shut. We may not be communicative to our loved ones, but we include ourselves in that group. Don't worry, it's not a serious problem. Whatever we're feeling is pretty much on the surface. It doesn't need to be said. You don't have to dig deep with us. In most cases, surface strip mining will reveal the whole lode.